The Human Room

Start by reading how tags work and checking the permitted tags for this group in the section below. Then introduce yourself so people know who you are. 

WhatsApp chat

This is the base layer. It is where people get a sense of who you are over time, and where you can find others in a similar headspace without needing to make a big declaration. The chat is also for ordinary conversation, life updates, work, hobbies, photos, small wins, stressful days, random thoughts, cats. The point is consistency and familiarity, small repeated interactions that make connection feel natural rather than forced.

Always on online call

This group has a single call link that is always available. Anyone can jump in at any time for low pressure company, light conversation, or simply to not be alone for a while. If you want others to join you, use the permitted tag to announce you will be on for a specific length of time, for example 20 minutes or an hour, so people can drop in without uncertainty. Treat it as casual company, not a formal session and not a place to monologue.

Member-led events

In-person meetups are optional and member-led. They are intentionally kept in members’ hands, so the group can match real energy levels and capacity on the day rather than forcing a fixed schedule. Members should float an idea in the chat first using the relevant tag to gauge interest, then create the event using WhatsApp’s Events feature if there is enough interest. All in-person meetups are capped at six people, the first six to RSVP are the attendees.

Member-led WhatsApp call events are not permitted in this group.

Any required links and key info for this room will always be kept in the group description. 

All tags must be in ALL CAPS and start with a hashtag. Anything in brackets is optional context to include so others can better understand. 

🏷️#NEW [name, info] 

Introduce yourself as a new joiner.

🏷️ #ROOM [time]
Invite others to join the always-on call link for a set time window. Add how long you’ll be there so people can drop in without pressure.

🏷️ #CHAT [subject, time]
Use this when you want to request a private conversation about something specific. Add the subject so the right person can respond, and add a rough time window so it feels easy to say yes. If someone is open to it, they DM you.

🏷️ #AROUND [time]
Use this when you’re around and open to a general private chat, either because you want some company or because you’re happy to offer it. Add how long you’ll be around for so your availability is clear. Whoever wants to take you up on it sends the first DM.

🏷️ #END
Use this to close a request you previously posted. Reply to your original message with #END so that it’s clear it’s no longer open. It’s a simple, polite way to say you’re no longer around, or you do not need a chat anymore, without awkwardness.

🏷️ #WIN [win]
Share a small or big win, something you’re proud of, relieved about, or want to mark.

🏷️ #RELATE [subject]
Use this in the group chat to find others who relate to a specific experience, feeling, or situation so people can share common ground and discuss together. This tag is for understanding and connection, not debate. This is not a private chat request and responses are open in the group chat.

In addition to the overall community expectations, this group has a few extra rules to keep the space organised, respectful, and genuinely outcome driven. 

✅ Grounded conversation, not venting

This room is for ordinary human connection in a calmer space. Share what’s real, but avoid venting or trauma dumping in the group chat.

✅ Respect privacy and anonymity

Assume people want discretion. Don’t screenshot, forward messages, or share identifying details about anyone’s situation outside the room.

✅ No diagnosing, fixing, or therapy-mode

Do not label others or push formal routes. This is not a clinical space, it’s a friendship and company space.

✅ Consideration and emotional care

People here may be more sensitive than they look. Keep replies gentle, avoid harsh humour, dogpiling, interrogation, or “tough love,” and don’t dismiss someone’s experience. If you disagree, do it softly or don’t do it at all. Aim to leave others feeling safe to keep showing up.

✅ In-person meetups stay small

Member-led in-person events are capped at 6 people max per event. Small groups reduce overwhelm and make it easier for everyone to be included.

✅ No member-led WhatsApp call events

This room does not use member-led WhatsApp call events. This avoids calls becoming “hosted sessions” or drifting into therapy dynamics. Instead, the single always-on call link means nobody has to organise, invite, or request company, people can simply drop in, see who’s around, and leave whenever they want.

The points below clarify what this group is not, so you can decide whether it’s the right space for you. 

🚫 A therapy group

This isn’t a place for treatment, diagnosis, or therapist-style guidance. If you need clinical support, this room is not a substitute.

🚫 A venting or trauma-dumping space

You can be real, but the group chat isn’t for unloading in a way that overwhelms others. Keep it grounded and shareable.

🚫 A judgement or debate room

This isn’t for arguing, interrogating, or “tough love.” The tone is gentle and respectful.

🚫 A place to label people

Don’t reduce others to diagnoses, archetypes, or quick assumptions. Treat people as whole humans because that is what they are.

🚫 An attention economy

This isn’t for constant crisis posting, spotlight-seeking, or dominating the chat. Leave space for others.

🚫 An events or nightlife social group

Meetups are optional and member-led. The room isn’t built around big nights out or high-energy social scenes.

🚫 A private-DM free-for-all

Private chats are welcome, but they should be invited through the room’s tags and kept respectful, no pressure, no persistence.