Community Expectations

These expectations apply across the whole community alongside the specific rules of each independent group, and must be respected at all times. Breaching any expectation may result in removal from a group or the community as a whole.

✅ Polls and pins are admin-only

To keep chats clear and avoid clutter, polls and pinning of messages are reserved for admins only. 

✅ Stay aligned with the group’s purpose

If a group no longer fits your situation or intention, step back so the group stays clear for others.

✅ Introduce yourself when you join

When joining a new group, always introduce yourself so people know who you are and that you’ve joined.

✅ Follow the group’s culture and rules

Before posting, check the group details, how it works, and the permitted tags, then engage in a way that respects that group’s culture.

✅ Respect the tag process

Use tags as intended and in the correct format. Tags keep requests clear, reduce awkwardness, and help the group stay organised.

✅ Be respectful and considerate

No insults, mockery, harassment, dogpiling, interrogation. Disagree politely or do not engage.

✅ No preaching, persuasion, or debates

Share your personal perspective without trying to convert, win, or prove a worldview. This isn’t a space for intellectual combat or fixing others. Avoid escalating discussions into arguments or using the group as a soapbox for rigid doctrines.

✅ Keep the chat readable

Avoid flooding the chat, repeated reposts, link dumping, or long blocks of text. Keep posts clear, relevant, and easy for others to respond to.

✅ Respect privacy and confidentiality

No screenshots, forwarding, or sharing what people say outside the community without consent. Assume discretion by default.

✅ Respect boundaries and private messaging

If a group allows private chats, follow that group’s process. Do not cold DM, and if someone does not respond, treat it as a no and move on.

✅ Local and age restricted

This community is only for people in North London in their 30s and 40s. This protects relevance, shared context, and real-world connection.

✅ Protect the culture

If something undermines safety, respect, or process, report it.

✅ Participation is expected

If someone joins a group and remains inactive for a prolonged period, they may be removed to keep groups active and intentional.